Well Begun is Half Done Otherwise Entitled Let's Tidy Up The Nursery

10 and a half imaginary internet points to whoever can get the quote in the post title.

If y'all have been with me a while (like my mom or Jaci or Amy) you might remember this post form the past. So It Has Come to This (Nursery Disaster) 

Long and short of it, the crib was in my room and the baby's room became a dumping ground. A really bad one. Like you couldn't even see most of the floor. Like there is no way I would want my little one in there ever. Here's a picture to refresh your memories.

It hurts me to look at that. Anyways, you may have remembered that I had a goal to get that room safer and have her sleeping in there by the time we got back from our trip. And I realized the other day that I haven't updated on that.

Funny story, I actually realized that because of a glitch in an app. I was chatting (I thought) with my husband. I asked where the cleaning spray had wound up since he was the last to use it. He responded that he didn't know, but maybe in the baby's room because it was a dumping ground.

I went on to scold him because the room was no longer a dumping ground because I un-dumping-grounded it and that it needed to stay baby safe.

Then I turned off the screen and went to pack the diaper bag. When I returned to the iPad the name and picture on the chat had changed and I realized I'd been chatting with Amy the whole time! She thought I was teasing saying she was the last one to use it and played along through the whole scolding. (Also the cleaner turned up in the kitchen not the baby's room, so she was safe.)

That's when I realized that I hadn't posted un-dumping-grounded photos yet.  It's time to fix that situation. I'll have you know I reached my goal and before we even left on our trip she was sleeping in her own room!

I still consider this to be a Work in Progress because I have some more cute decorating ideas, but it is 57 million times better than it was. And here's the proof!

 

So the nursery disaster has been Averted! The little one sleeps in there and she sleeps well. I (of course) had more trouble with the transition than she did.

In another post I'll explain how I managed to declutter.

Stay tuned!

The 6 Baby Gear Items You Actually NEED

I'm the first out of my close friends to have a baby. Since then I've had several friends asking me for advice on gear, what babies really need, and how to save money (because we're all poor students or recent graduates still).

There is a minimum cost associated with a baby. There is the cost of actually having the baby. There are some costs that are essential. Then there is the gear. Gear can cost as much as you are willing to spend. People try to convince that you NEED a $200 diaper bag, a $100 bedding set, a magical trash can, and a million other little things that add up to eat all the money you are willing to throw at it.

All that stuff might really be convenient, adorable, amazing, time saving, possibly even life-changing. However, very little (if any) of it is life-giving, life-saving, or absolutely necessary. You might love it, but you don't need it.

Today I'm going to talk about the 6 things that I believe are absolutely necessary to fulfill the basic physical needs of most babies under normal circumstances. I've tried to think of ways to get by without, these are the only 6 I couldn't find a way around.

1. Carseat 

Car safety is so important. Most places won't let you take a baby home without proving that you have a carseat. Maybe you could live without one if you had your baby at home and then never took the child anywhere not within walking distance for the first few years of his life...

Options:
Infant carrier carseat, convertible carseat
Save money by:
Buying a carseat that is approved for both front and rear facing so they won't grow out of it as quickly. This might be a larger initial investment, but you won't have to buy a second carseat as soon. My little one outgrew her infant carseat at about 7 months.
DO NOT save money by:
Buying a used carseat or using an expired carseat (I had no idea befor my little one was born that those expire, but they do).

2. Safe place to sleep

The standard option is a crib. A friend of mine had her baby sleep in a laundry basket for the first few months. I'm guessing she padded it. I don't know how though. It was nice because she could move it from room to room and keep an eye on him while he slept. In Finland many newborns sleep in cardboard boxes.

Options:
Crib, bassinet, Moses basket, the floor in a very babyproofed very low traffic room, ...
Save money by:
Skipping the bassinet and just buying the crib.
Buying a crib that converts into a toddler bed. Look for one where the conversion kit is included so you don't have to go hunting and buying more parts later.

3. A way to feed the baby 

Babies need to eat. There is no way around that. Crazy huh? For some people feeding options are a heated subject. I have my own opinion that I might talk about in a later post, but not here. 

Options: 

Nursing, pumping, formula feeding, or a combination 

Save money by:

Nursing. You don't have to buy formula, your body makes it for you and it's always the right temperature and you don't have to worry about storing it. 

Off brand formula. I usually buy from Simply Right from Sam's Club. We haven't noticed a difference from when we bought the more expensive brands. 

Hoarding formula samples while your pregnant. There are usually samples at the doctors office. Take one at every appointment. Even when you're only 8 weeks along.

Try a manual pump if you only need to pump occasionally, are not sure if pumping is for you, or are willing to put forth a lot of effort to save money. (There is also the option of hand expressing.)

4. Diapers & Wipes 

It is important that excrements are properly contained and disposed of. I couldn't think of a way out of this one. Maybe let them live in the bathtub. In China babies wear split pants and no diapers so they can go whenever they want to. I do not consider that a valid option.

Options:
Disposable, cloth, or a combination.
Save money by:
Cloth diapering. It's a bigger initial investment, but if you get the one-size diapers they can be worn all the way till potty training.
Trying off brand disposables.
Shopping sales and couponing.

5. A way to keep them warm/cool

When you think about it, baby couldn't care less if he is styling or not. If the ambient temperature is right he'd be fine in just a diaper. (In fact, he'd probably be happy without a diaper too, but that would be bad for other reasons.) He might even be happier without clothes because he didn't have to go through the trauma of getting his little head and arms tucked through little holes in fabric.

I'm not arguing against clothes. In fact, I love baby clothes. They are so cute! They are also an important part of society and culture. I'm just saying they are extras. Awesome extras, but not essential for life. Just remembering that could help you save a lot of money.

Options:
Clothes, blankets, heating/air conditioning
Save money by: 
Shopping sales, clearance, and couponing.
Hand-me-down or consignment sale clothes and blankets. Babies grow so fast that a lot of these clothes are in great condition.
Fighting the urge to buy every adorable thing you see.

6. A way to wash the baby

My little one actually hated her infant bathtub. We used it only a handful of times over the months and she screamed the whole way through each time. She was a calm baby, so I would just shower with her. I'd clean myself and then my husband would hand me the baby. We have a shower bench, so I could sit with her on my lap. When she could sit supported she got squirmy and started to prefer the inflatable ducky tub.

Options:
Baby baths, sponge baths, showers
Savemoney by:
Using the sink Showering (carefully)

Hope this helps!

Plagiocephaly Appointment #3: Fine Tuning

This is the fourth in a short series of posts about what to expect when getting a helmet. Here's links to the full series.

What to expect when getting a helmet
Appointment #1: Measuring
Appointment #2: Fitting
Appointment #3: Fine tuning

At the last appointment we were given the brand new helmet with instructions to ease her into wearing it. We were also given instructions to look out for spots where the helmet was tight or rubbing. We would recognize these spots because they would leave red marks on her head. Each time we took the helmet off, especially for the first week, we were supposed to check for red spots and keep track of how long it took them to fade away.

If any spots were not fading away within the hour her helmet was off or were becoming raw or irritated we were supposed to leave the helmet off and schedule an adjustment as soon as possible. That didn't happen for us. There were some spots that were red each time, but they were all mild enough that we could wait until the next appointment.

After she had been in the helmet about a week we had our fine tuning follow up appointment.

This appointment was very straight forward. The doctor asked us how we were doing, if we'd noticed any reoccurring red spots, and if we had any other concerns.

Then he examined her head. I pointed out where she had been getting red each time.

What happened next was the funny part. He got out a stocking and put it over her head like at the measuring appointment. Then instead of pulling out the reflective stickers he pulled out a tube of lipstick!

He smeared a bit of lipstick on her head where the helmet was rubbing and replaced the helmet. After wiggling the helmet around a bit he took it back off and showed me the inside. There were lipstick marks in the helmet showing exactly where it was rubbing her head. That made it easy for him to go shave those spots down to give her more space there.

That was it. The helmet was custom made and fitted just for her. Since then our appointments have been very simple. Once a month we visit. He takes her measurements and compares them against the previous measurements so we can see what progress she's made. He asks if we've been having any problems, checks for redness, and sometimes makes small adjustments.

She still is annoyed when we hold her still to get the helmet on or off. Sometimes she cries then. When we take it off she spends lots of time touching her head. It's a strange sensation to her. Other than that she doesn't mind wearing it at all.

Here's wishing as smooth and enjoyable experience for other helmet parents.

-Click here for the full Plagiocephaly Saga-